Autism

Anyone have any experience with this? I do more than I care actually. Like I have said before our third son has is ever changing thing. I call it a thing because you can't really put them all in the same group. Some people with Autism can do math like Rain Man, some can paint and play instruments.

Well my son, goes to public school for reasons to long to explain here. I LOVE him with all my heart!! I just wish that the teachers would be a little more understanding of kids like this. He has a huge heart and is a big teddy bear but due to his size, he's over 6 feet tall and is about 250 lbs and has some really bad outbursts.

Well today is one of those days!! He apparently asked for help and was told to put his work away, picked on by someone and told not to worry about it. All of this caused him to have a melt down and say somethings that he didn't mean and now.......well now he's home for tomorrow not because he's in trouble but he needs a day off? Really? NO!!! He needs to be his ass in school, you see he has everyone duped into thinking he needs a day off. He hates school and loves staying at home and so go to school is punishment for him. AHHHHH!!!

We've lived here at Fort Benning for six years and in all that time my husband has been deployed or this last year in school so he's been home about two years in the last six. I have had to deal with all of fallout. Not complaining just venting I guess. I just tire of teachers and others that don't know my child and how he really is judge him when he's placed in situation that causes him to have a meltdown.

The florescent lighting in school is really bad for kids with Autism, it tends to set them off, not to mention it's high school, crowed halls, the noise and please lets not forget how wonderful everyone is in high school. Yes I know that Autism is mainly a social thing but he has other issues as well. Combine all this with the fact that hormones are running ramped he generally feels like a lone fish put on display for everyone to poke.

This is not the case with his Autism, high functioning, his perception of any given situation is always under scrutiny. It's not that he's lying he just doesn't see the whole picture and like I have said before there is no grey area for him it's either black or white.

Oh well I'm sure I will find him something to do tomorrow.

Kids

I have to take some time out from my usual bitching about army wives and focus a little on my kids! I love all four of them, each in different ways.

My oldest is in his second year of college and god love him, the child is very intelligent but he didn't get any common sense. He's going to be an English teacher but currently can't get a job at the waffle house!! I do love him but he's a mess.
Our second son has a rare syndrome and has it together!! LOL!! He's had to have several surgeries for his spinal defect but NEVER complains. One of his surgeries he had to have his jaw removed to have his partial dens removed. Long story but he's amazing.
Our third son has autism, nuff said!! He lacks the grey area that most of us have, everything is black or white. He can have a sense of humor but it takes some getting used to. High school is proving to be a challenge but he will succeed because we don't know how to fail! LOL!

But my daughter is who I really want to focus on. She's the youngest and in the eighth grade. She has her daddy's competitiveness and is very caring and loving for a teenage girl. Admit it, we've all been through middle and high school and the meanest creatures on earth during this time seems to be teenage girls. But she is very different, I've overheard her telling her friends that when she grows up she wants to have a job that doesn't judge you on your beauty but how intelligent you are and how well you perform your job! Wow!!

Let me explain, she is involved in academic bowl, reading bowl, science olympiad, NJHS, peer helpers, math team and velocity. She doesn't wear make-up ( not because of her dad and I but her choice), she doesn't have boyfriends ( because boys are dumb, I think having three older brothers has something to do with it) and makes straight A's in school.

She came home yesterday very upset so I asked her what was wrong. She proceeded to tell me about a friend at school that was cutting herself and how worried she was about her. She then told me how this particular little girl had lost her brother about  two years ago when they were in the sixth grade. She also told me that this friend started liking a high school boy that works at the mall and she sent him some naked pictures from her phone. So my daughter told the school counselor everything she knew. I told her she did the right thing and I thought she was being a good friend, of course she scared that now when her friend finds out that she told they won't be friends any more. The friends mom is a cop and my daughter is afraid of what may happen. No matter what you did the right thing, I told her.   What is your proudest moments as a mom or dad?

Army Wives

Has anyone seen the movie "When we were Soldiers", it had Mel Gibson in it and was filmed here at Fort Benning. I want to know were those wives are!! What happened to us as a whole? When did it become ok to disrespect each other in the commissary, online in blogs or flat out anywhere!!

I don't want to start this blog out as a rant or me being my usual bossy self (just ask my kids they will tell you how bossy I am, LOL) but why as army (because my husband is army), navy, marines, air force, coast guard, or national guard wife decide that bashing or giving out your personal opinion as criticism in any way ok.

I want back those days where wives didn't wear rank, when someones washer went out someone offered to give them a helping hand? Why does it all have to be about me? I think that to many military wives feel entitled and I'm not really sure why. I have spent 18 years married to my husband and his mistress  who we call the army but in no way do I feel entitled to anything. Yes my husband is enlisted but I don't feel the need to wear his rank and tell you or anyone they are a bad person because they have tattoos or tell someone how they should put make up on to met the "hubs" command. That crap makes us look bitchy, then military wives wonder why we all have a bad reputation. Don't get me wrong I don't want to sit around holding hands and singing Kumbayam but to have some common decency when we interact with each other.

Our unit is very small we don't even have an FRG. Anytime we had meetings it was prior to the guys leaving on a deployment. The wives didn't have much interaction with each other unless they hung out during the week. But when the guys would go I would call on the wives I had information on and check to see if they were ok or need anything. I tried to send as many goodies to the guys in the unit when I wasn't in school or taking one of the kids to the doctor. I sure there are wives that would say I was trying to be a busy body or what not. That's fine but I felt that it was my duty to look after the wives, when they deployed call that silly and it probably was but I just wanted to bring back that camaraderie. You know where everyone was kind, thoughtful and caring after all our husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends or wives were leaving for a year.

Please remember once you say it, it can't be taken back!! Everyone watch  the movie lets bring back the wives that had pride and respect for one another! So when someone talks about army wives it doesn't leave a bad taste in the mouth!  What's your thoughts? Am I asking too much?

Death

So by now everyone has heard that Whitney Houston has died, unless you live under a rock or are deployed and then it's just irrelevant. Whether you liked her or her music yes she did have a great voice but she did like most famous people do and waste it on drugs. Don't get me wrong I feel for her family but what about all of our troops that have given their lives for our freedom. Did anyone hear about the deaths of our men and women in the service that died that day? Nope, me either but I did a little research, found out that 29 US soldiers have died this year. Did I hear about it on the news, is anyone giving a special tribute to them or their families? NO!!  I am sorry Whitney married someone that may or may not have gotten her addicted to drugs but all the news about her death won't bring her back and makes things worse for her daughter. Will media coverage about the loss our men and women that so freely give their lives for us bring them back? NO but it's called respect and to me paying respect to someone that has giving their life for me is well worth it. Come on media please be fair and pay respect to everyone not just who you think is important. What's important to some is not important to everyone because if it was more people would be more kind, loving and mindful of what they do and say to one another!!

                                    Happy to let go of whiny wives!!

So I am recovering from being sick this week, thanks to my kids giving me some crazy zombie infection. I've pretty much been hanging out in my room on facebook and pineterest and I realized how much happier I am since I deleted all the whiny, bitchy wives from facebook. Does anyone else feel this way? I was as polite to them in person but you tired of hearing how my husband is gone and I just can't go on...blah, blah, blah!!!
Guess what girls, your husband is in the military suck it up. Oh and the ones with new babies are the worst. Who the hell are you to be saying all this, well let me explain that I've been married to my husband for 18 years and his mos in the military maybe awesome but he is also gone a lot!!! I have raised our four kids just about on my own, please don't take this as bitching or complaining cause I'm not. Had he not been gone so much I might have turned out to be one of those whiny wives.  What is my husbands rank?  Well, that's not important, I don't wear it, I didn't earn it! I earned the right to stand by his side and love him when he's home.
Sorry for the rant but being cooped up for a week has me a little stir crazy!!

Think before you speak!!

So I read where someone else wrote a blog about military wives and their behavior, such as how to not wear your spouses military uniform and how you should behave in front of your "hubs" 1Stg.. Really!! Lady where do you get off telling the rest of us "Army Wives" how to act, what to wear and speak in front of  our spouses command?
When you write something you should probably write it on paper first so you don't get your "hubs" in trouble as well as looking as a fool yourself!  And this is just my blog and my opinion so if you don't like it don't read it!!  As for me, I've been married to the military for 18 years so please don't try to tell me something when you not been married half that time!! Thanks!!